My Story

Cheers to the beginning of a lovely relationship!

As a retired psychotherapist (licensed marriage and family therapist in Minnesota), coaching was a natural progression for me. For years, I worked with individuals and couples on issues related to their relationships. As I became more established, I realized that my favorite clients were actually women (and a few select men) who needed coaching, not therapy.

Coaching versus Therapy

What’s the difference, you ask? Therapy is lead by the therapist and is the process of helping you explore your past so you can heal and hopefully make changes that will contribute to a healthier, happier life. Coaching is a structured process led by YOU! I provide guidance and direction based on your goals, but coaching requires motivation, ambition, direction, and a desire to make change. As your coach, I hold you accountable from session to session to ensure you make the progress you want.

My Story

The best place to start is probably the beginning. I grew up in a loving yet unhealthy family. My parents struggled in their marriage so I didn’t grow up with healthy models. At the age of 26, I married my now ex husband whom I had known since high school. We fell in love but as my mother used to say, sometimes love isn’t enough. We struggled in our relationship like I had witnessed growing up. It was tough raising three kids (his son from a previous marriage and our two) on a tight budget. I was a stay at home mom at the time. Neither of us knew how to maintain a relationship and so things started falling apart several years in. Eventually we divorced.

As a new single mom, I went back to work and the stress continued. I made attempts at dating but finding the time with small children was a challenge in and of itself but I wasn’t finding quality partners and was attracting the wrong kind of men. After many years of some serious and some not so serious relationships, I realized I wasn’t the only one dealing with relationship struggles. Through my own therapy and coaching, I started creating a model that I used for myself. The results were pretty amazing. My income increased, I got healthier in my choices with the men I chose to go out with, and I found serious BLISS in my day to day life. The plan I created allowed me to let go of control over the process and trust that The Universe had my back and I knew the right man was on his way.

The Plan

Knowing yourself and getting clear on what you want is the key to this process. After all, YOU are the common denominator in all of your past encounters and relationships. In following my own Plan, my Mr. Dreamy arrived. I’m now partnered to an amazing man, we are moving in to my dream home together and my business is thriving. Oh, and because of the success of my business, I’m no longer struggling financially (I can’t say that raising kids got easier though!).

I know how hard life can be and I can walk you through to the other side. If you know what you’ve been doing hasn’t worked and you are ready to commit and invest in yourself, I encourage you to apply for a Clarity Call. It won’t get better until you take the first step.

Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.